Lesson 4

Lesson 4

Key 3: Get to know yourself really well

Ten Rules of Being Human by Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott

1. You Will Receive a Body.
   You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period this time around.
2. You Will Be Presented With Lessons.
   You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant or stupid.
3. There Are No Mistakes, Only Lessons.
   Growth is a process of trial and error: experimentation. The "failed" experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately "works."
4. A Lesson Is Repeated Until Learned.
   A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.
5. Learning Does Not End.
   There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.
6. "There" Is No Better Than "Here."
   When your "there" has become a "here," you will simply obtain another "there" that will again look better than "here."
7. Others Are Merely Mirrors of You.
   You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself.
8. What You Make of Your Life Is Up to You.
   The answers to life's questions lie inside you. All you need do is look, listen and trust.
9. All Your Answers Lie Inside of You.
   So listen to your heart! Trust your inner coach!
10. You Will Forget All of This at Birth!
    Get back to your inner truth: faith, awakening, wisdom, releasing self-imposed limitations.

1. If I could do ______________________really well, I could make all the money I wanted. Communication
2. If I could be outstanding at any part of my work, what would it be? Customer service
3. What do I have an incredible desire to learn more about? Mental health
4. What skill gives me the greatest feeling of importance? Ability to understand others and be empathetic
5. What is my personal advantage? Being empathetic
6. What should my personal advantage be? Being more confident
7. What should my personal advantage be 3 years from now? Stronger communication

Uncovering your values:

The easiest way to identify your top values is to answer the following question:

What is most important to you in your life?

If you want to know your career values, you can replace the question with:

What is most important to you in your career?

Personal advantage assessment

Identify your skills: Listen to your desires

Identify your personality: what are your personal traits

Skills and aptitudes: Do what you are good at

Work kills: adaptive skills help shape our attitudes sand determine how we manage ourselves and interact with others.

Identify your most empowering beliefs: be kind and caring, be humble, finish what you start, hard work, help others when you can

Adaptive skills exercise: patient, accepting, caring, committed, organized, receptive, responsive, tolerant,  

Transferable skills exercise: interpreting, talking, communicating

1. Identify your needs, values, wants and desires.
1. Order/perfection
2. Acceptance
3. Honesty/integrity
4. Be loved
5. Accomplishments

be kind and caring, be humble, finish what you start, hard work, help others when you can

2. Identify your personality traits (what adjectives describe you). patient, accepting, caring, committed, organized, receptive, responsive, tolerant,  
3. Identify your adaptive skills (natural skills that help you cope) reading, writing, music,  
4. Identify your special gifts and strengths. Read others fairly well, compassionate, caring
5. Identify your transferable skills (skills that are learned as we experience different situations both within and outside the workplace) I’m good at being resilient

People skills: compassionate  
Information skills: research
Communication skills: communicate best through writing
Leadership skills: able to follow direction
Manual and Mechanical skills: writing,

6. Identify 5 of your most empowering beliefs about work. Finish what you start, do your best, be respectful

Assignment 4

1. Your top 5 values

1.    Teaching

2.    Spirituality/ God

3.    Sensitivity /niceness

4.    Relatedness

5.    Pleasure

2. Your total score: 188
3. How you feel about this evaluation such as you agree with the results etc.

I agree with the results. I am finishing my degree in teaching so it makes sense that would be my first value. I also am a very spiritual person so it makes sense for that to be on the list as well. The only thing on my list that I don’t really see fitting is pleaser but looking at the other options they don’t really seem to fit either. Pleaser and the rest are really close to the same number.

4. What action plan or how to you plan to express your values in your life if you are not doing so now.

I plan on finishing up my teaching degree, attend church more, and do better at being nice and making connections with my friends.

lesson 3

Lesson 3: Take a close look at your previous endeavors

Key 2: Take a close look at your previous endeavors

Looking Back Exercise Part I ( Think of a past job)

1. What are the lessons that I learned? Learned and gained customer service experience
2. What aspects did I enjoy? The people I worked with
3. What things did I tolerate? Customers being rude
4. What made my blood boil? FMLA with my pregnancy
5. What energized me? Co-workers
6. What did I enjoy volunteering for? Volunteering for service desk and helping out in other departments
7. What was I most proud of accomplishing? Training myself at service desk

Looking back part 2: Compare your jobs to what you enjoyed doing as a child/teen.

With all my jobs, I have done mainly customer service. Every job has had a social part to it and growing up I have always been talkative and a social butterfly. I also love helping people so it makes sense to work in customer service. Since I enjoy talking it also makes sense that I work in a call center.

Seven ways to get your personal needs met once and for all

1.   Understand that you DO have needs and that getting them met is essential to your being irresistibly attractive.

2.   Identify at least one pivotal need

3.   Identify at least one other personal need exactly.

4.   Discover the source of your Pivotal Personal Need

5.   Document how that unmet PPN has helped you get where you are today

6.   Identify what you’d need in order to have that PPN satisfied permanently   

7.   Find willing partners to help you take care of this need.

Your personal Profile

Interests exercise

1. Your top three interests.
2. Your top three skills and abilities.
3. Your top three personal characteristics.

Conclusion:

John-Roger, spiritual teacher and author of the books  Wealth 101 and Spiritual Warrior, includes all of these as well as the following ingredients into his fuller definition of wealth:

1. Happiness
2. Abundance
3. Loving
4. Caring
5. Sharing
6. Learning
7. Knowing what we want
8. Opportunity
9. Enjoying
10. Balance

Assignment Three:

1. Your top 5 needs
1. Order/perfection
2. Acceptance
3. Honesty/integrity
4. Be loved
5. Accomplishments
2. Your total score.
1. 304
3. Tell me how you feel about these results such as the list makes sense or this explains why I get mad etc.
1. I feel the results are pretty accurate and I didn’t really get a need I was surprised by. I am a perfectionist and am always trying to accomplish things. I also always look for acceptance, love and feel that when people do love me or are accepting of me I feel they are dishonest about it so honesty also makes sense to be on the list.
4. Include an action plan to get the need or needs met.
1. I will try to organize my accomplishments so I can easily look back and recognize how far I have come and be proud/accepting of where I am. I will continue to work on my need of acceptance and needing to be loved by learning to love and accept myself.