Lesson 4

Lesson 4

Key 3: Get to know yourself really well

Ten Rules of Being Human by Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott

1. You Will Receive a Body.
   You may like it or hate it, but it will be yours for the entire period this time around.
2. You Will Be Presented With Lessons.
   You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant or stupid.
3. There Are No Mistakes, Only Lessons.
   Growth is a process of trial and error: experimentation. The "failed" experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately "works."
4. A Lesson Is Repeated Until Learned.
   A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.
5. Learning Does Not End.
   There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.
6. "There" Is No Better Than "Here."
   When your "there" has become a "here," you will simply obtain another "there" that will again look better than "here."
7. Others Are Merely Mirrors of You.
   You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself.
8. What You Make of Your Life Is Up to You.
   The answers to life's questions lie inside you. All you need do is look, listen and trust.
9. All Your Answers Lie Inside of You.
   So listen to your heart! Trust your inner coach!
10. You Will Forget All of This at Birth!
    Get back to your inner truth: faith, awakening, wisdom, releasing self-imposed limitations.

1. If I could do ______________________really well, I could make all the money I wanted. Communication
2. If I could be outstanding at any part of my work, what would it be? Customer service
3. What do I have an incredible desire to learn more about? Mental health
4. What skill gives me the greatest feeling of importance? Ability to understand others and be empathetic
5. What is my personal advantage? Being empathetic
6. What should my personal advantage be? Being more confident
7. What should my personal advantage be 3 years from now? Stronger communication

Uncovering your values:

The easiest way to identify your top values is to answer the following question:

What is most important to you in your life?

If you want to know your career values, you can replace the question with:

What is most important to you in your career?

Personal advantage assessment

Identify your skills: Listen to your desires

Identify your personality: what are your personal traits

Skills and aptitudes: Do what you are good at

Work kills: adaptive skills help shape our attitudes sand determine how we manage ourselves and interact with others.

Identify your most empowering beliefs: be kind and caring, be humble, finish what you start, hard work, help others when you can

Adaptive skills exercise: patient, accepting, caring, committed, organized, receptive, responsive, tolerant,  

Transferable skills exercise: interpreting, talking, communicating

1. Identify your needs, values, wants and desires.
1. Order/perfection
2. Acceptance
3. Honesty/integrity
4. Be loved
5. Accomplishments

be kind and caring, be humble, finish what you start, hard work, help others when you can

2. Identify your personality traits (what adjectives describe you). patient, accepting, caring, committed, organized, receptive, responsive, tolerant,  
3. Identify your adaptive skills (natural skills that help you cope) reading, writing, music,  
4. Identify your special gifts and strengths. Read others fairly well, compassionate, caring
5. Identify your transferable skills (skills that are learned as we experience different situations both within and outside the workplace) I’m good at being resilient

People skills: compassionate  
Information skills: research
Communication skills: communicate best through writing
Leadership skills: able to follow direction
Manual and Mechanical skills: writing,

6. Identify 5 of your most empowering beliefs about work. Finish what you start, do your best, be respectful

Assignment 4

1. Your top 5 values

1.    Teaching

2.    Spirituality/ God

3.    Sensitivity /niceness

4.    Relatedness

5.    Pleasure

2. Your total score: 188
3. How you feel about this evaluation such as you agree with the results etc.

I agree with the results. I am finishing my degree in teaching so it makes sense that would be my first value. I also am a very spiritual person so it makes sense for that to be on the list as well. The only thing on my list that I don’t really see fitting is pleaser but looking at the other options they don’t really seem to fit either. Pleaser and the rest are really close to the same number.

4. What action plan or how to you plan to express your values in your life if you are not doing so now.

I plan on finishing up my teaching degree, attend church more, and do better at being nice and making connections with my friends.