Abraham’s Birthday

today my youngest turns 1 and i don’t know what it is about first birthdays but I always get to be a depressed emotional mess thinking of them growing up so fast. Today I took off of work to be with him and finish getting things ready for his birthday party on Sunday. It’s crazy to think how a year ago I was in the hospital getting ready for a c-section and now he is here and a year older. Anyway, enough rambling. I made a video of his first year enjoy!

Lesson 6

Lesson 6: How to get what you really want

A successful technique is through goal setting. Goals make a difference in achieving your dream.

Goals make the difference:

Highly successful people use goal setting as part of their success formula.

What do you really want? What do you want to have in your life? What kind of person would you like to become? What do you want to do? Where do you want to go?

Turning dreams into goals

1.    prioritize your list

2.    write a short sentence that affirms your top four or five goals

3.    write your goals in the present tense

4.    be positive

5.    make your goal as specific as you can, and if possible place a date on it

6.    set goals for different areas of your life

JOB / CAREER / FINANCIAL GOALS

I will reach level 3 customer service agent by July 2018.

I will work on my work goals set with my supervisor on a weekly basis.

RELATIONSHIPS / COMMUNICATION

I allow my relationship with John to be easy, relaxed, comfortable, friendly, harmonious, loving, constructive, supportive, open, honest, kindly, mutually beneficial.

 I allow myself to easily and effectively communicate.

I allow myself to love and accept myself no matter what.

DIET

I will start a work out plan and be physically active at least 2 days a week

I will do Yoga at least 2-3 times during the week in the morning

I will allow myself to enjoy eating food that keep my body slender, healthy and fit.

GENERAL HEALTH

I will take my medication regularly to help maintain my mental health.

I allow myself to sleep well and awake refreshed and well rested using my CPAP machine

I allow myself to easily and cheerfully establish and maintain a lifestyle that promotes good health and fitness.

I lovingly and willingly release and let go all of that which does not serve me positively and progressively.

Getting Committed

If you are committed to your goals, you will succeed

Regardless of how important a goal is to you, there will come a time when you will become discouraged.

Go back to your top goals and, on another page in your journal, write a short paragraph describing, in detail, all the benefits you will gain by achieving each particular goal.

Next, do the opposite. Write a short paragraph describing what you will lose and what you are already missing out on by not having achieved your goal. Be tough on yourself.

Five steps to setting goals

Step one: I write down 6-month, 1-year, 3-year, 5- and 10-year goals in every area of my life. I write them in the present and with specifics.

Step two: I find pictures of the things that symbolize my goals and I create a treasure map of all the things I want to attract.

Step three: I journal as to why I want each goal and how serious I am about obtaining it and what I am willing to do to make the goal a reality.

Step four: I write my top 5 goals on an index card and then make 5 copies of that card. One goes in my planner, one on my nightstand, one on my bathroom mirror, one on my dashboard and one goes on my computer monitor. I look at these and think about them 3-5 times every day.

Step five: Each month I re-evaluate my goals and re-prioritize and repeat Step four above.

Define your purpose: Why do you want it so badly?

Be committed and know what you will benefit once you gain your goal.

1. This will keep you motivated. By staying in your heart, you will be able to focus on the great feelings and other benefits too.
2. Start your goal statements with "I allow."

Determine your resources: Who is your greatest resource? 

1. When is the best time to begin?
2. Should you break down your journey into small pieces?
3. What obstacles could come up for you? Who can you ask for help?
4. Do you have a timeline? Gauge your progress.
5. Don't miss the opportunities that come along the way. Stay open.

Create an Action Plan: 

1. The key to personal power is action - inner motivation, not external prompts.
2. Determine the "price" you are going to have to pay, in full and in advance.

Resolve: Stay Committed to Work From the Heart. 

1. We are driven to gain pleasure or to avoid pain.
2. When you lose sight, close your eyes and focus on what will you lose and miss out on by not achieving your goal? Then focus on what rewards you gain by achieving your goals.

Take Action Today and Every Day: 

1. Remember the universe rewards movement.
2. Every night - visualize what you want before you go to sleep.
3. Anticipate obstacles and strategies.
4. Adjust accordingly and develop flexibility.
5. Maintain momentum.

It takes work to change and it takes commitment to be on the creating end of this change. But if you remember that success is an inside job; keep your passion alive by not tying it to an end result; use your imagination daily; and dream big, you will be so proud of yourself when your life starts reflecting back to you all this work.

Here is a top ten list to inspire you:

The Top 10 Steps for Achieving Personal and Professional Success 

1. Have a clear intention.

Know what it is that you want to accomplish whether it is to start a new business, lose 10 pounds or run for political office. Be clear about what steps you will need to take to get there.

2. Ask for help.

It is a sign of strength, not weakness, to reach out for support. When we are trying to stretch and grow we need support - don't be afraid to ask for it.

3. Love what you do and do what you love.

You have a much greater chance to succeed if you are embarking on something you are truly passionate about. Only you can know what is right for you to do - listen to your heart.

4. Be attractive.

When out in the world who do you want to be around - the grump or the person who smiles and says hello? What you put out there comes back to you. The energy you project to those around you will come back to you tenfold and help you to reach your goals.

5. Do anything!

You never know what it is that will open that door for you - try anything (well, almost anything!). Maria Shriver has talked about her early jobs in the news business - there is no job or task too small - do anything!

6. Be fearless!

Don't let fear stop you from achieving your dreams. Do whatever it takes to make your dreams come true. Life is short, don't live with regrets for what you didn't do.

7. Be creative.

So you don't have endless money to fix up your house or start that new business - there are always ways to do things that don't cost an arm or a leg. Sometimes not having everything at your fingertips forces you to use talents you never knew you had!

8. Use what and who you know.

We all have people and resources that we can draw upon. Barter, trade, use the contacts you have. We all know lots of people with lots of talents, and we have talents to share. Build that network!

9. Align yourself with the best.

Search out the top people in your field of interest and learn from them. Volunteer, put yourself out there. Ask for their advice and help. Most people are more than happy to share some nugget of their success story.

10. Be assertive.

You don't have to be obnoxious - just make yourself known and ask for what you want. If one person doesn't respond, move on to the next. If one situation doesn't pan out, try again. You have to keep trying, not everything you do will work, not all of it has to. Don't give up! If you have a goal, you can achieve it!

Creating the life of your dreams

1.     Consciously choose what you really want.

2.     Always tell the truth. 

3.     Focus on becoming a Lover in Life

4.     Take responsibility for everything you think, say and do.

5.     Live in the moment.

6.     Focus your awareness.

7.     Listen carefully and authentically.

8.     Consciously choose new habits. 

9.     Practice, Persistence, and Patience. 

10.  Serve the needs of others. 

11.  Celebrate your life. 

Lesson 5

Lesson 5: Key 4: align your head with your heart

See it first: Give yourself permission to write down your dreams. Don't skimp on the details. They are often the keys to unlocking joy.

IDEAL LIFE EXERCISE 

1. Sit quietly, close your eyes and imagine or visualize what your ideal life and career would look and feel like. Try to get a clear picture of yourself in your ideal working/living environment. Emphasize details.
2. How can you best honor your needs, wants, desires, interests, personality traits, aptitudes, skills, values and beliefs? What kind of person would you like to become?
3. In your journal, write down your ideal life. Use these questions to help you: 

What features from your previous jobs do you want to include? 

How can you best honor your values and share your gifts?

How do you want to be spending your time?

Who is in your life?

How do you feel?

What does your typical day look like?

What are you doing?

What kind of activities are you engaged in?

Who are you interacting with?

Who are your ideal co-workers, bosses and clients?

4. Try to describe the general feelings associated with your activities rather than the activities themselves. The more you gain a sense of the emotions attached to your work, the better you will be able to attract the kind of work you'll love.

Success Is an Inside Job

If you want something to change on the outside, you'll have to change something on the inside. 

Resistance feels like trying to move forward with the brakes on. It takes a conscious effort to overcome the unconscious effort (habit) of holding down the feelings. That unconscious habit is resistance.

Our resistance is our greatest block to effortless releasing, happiness and success. 

The antidote for this learned helplessness is to replace fear and ignorance with courage and confidence.

Key #4: Align Your Head With Your Heart

You can react or respond to situations. A reaction comes from the head and it is usually a control issue.

There are two decision-making modalities within you - the head and the heart. Many people mechanically make choices from the head because they are not yet aware that there's another choice - heart intelligence. Heart intelligence works as an efficient guideline for head reasoning.

By shifting your focus to your heart feelings during a decision-making process, you will feel constricted muscles actually relax and help you balance your perceptions to gain a clearer picture of the situation and hopefully then choose a kinder way to respond.

Shifting from the head to the heart

1. Breathe, get centered, be present
2. State intention "I am."
3. See what negative talk comes up
4. Freeze it!
5. Shift to the heart-think about something that makes you feel good, be grateful about someone or something in your life.
6. Melt the frozen thought - see it slowly fading away or melting into the light.
7. Breathe: ask "How do I handle this best?" or "What is the next step?"
8. Acknowledge the first thought that pops in - no judgment!
9. Trust your heart - your higher self or inner coach.
10. State a new intention affirming your new reality.

Create Your Reality Through Your Beliefs.

 (self-care) really means:

• Shift your thinking from society's definition which doesn't distinguish between selfishness and SELF-ishness (self-care).
• Be willing to accept that SELF-ishness is good.

This involves changing your beliefs:

• Easy for some, harder for others.
• Takes time for the body, mind and spirit to integrate new information.
• Attraction is based on the "who" of who you are.
• Allow yourself to be in the driver's seat; accept you have the personal power to create your reality.
• Accept that you are worthy, willing and able to redesign your life.

Look at it this way: If you don't like and take care of yourself, how can you fully offer that Self to others and be attractive to them? 

As you align your head with your heart, you will more easily:

• be willing to put yourself first and thus be able to give more to others.
• accept SELF-ishness as a good thing and understand it is a skill to master.
• get your needs met deeply enough.
• be able to create more than enough reserves.
• release any resistance that keeps you from seeing your ideal life
• have less stress as you apply your heart intelligence